If you listen to me and my best friends podcast Melanin In The Morning, we talk a lot about how to be yourself. We talk a lot about our personal stories, things that of happened in our life, and a little bit about some of the trauma that we’ve gone through. I get a lot of questions from people who asked me, how are you so sure of yourself? And the short answer? I’m just unapologetically me.
For as long as I could remember, I was always a little bit different. I grew up in a family with two siblings and I was the middle child. You know how some people say they have a middle child syndrome? Well, I never had that LOL. But I did feel different. I remember sitting in class at school not caring about anything that had to do with math or science, and all I thought about was singing, dancing, acting, and everything that had to do with the arts. From an early age I was very creative, and at times, a bit rebellious.
I’m sure my parents wanted me to get a “real” job, but that was just never who I was. I’ve had every single job you can imagine – worked as a cashier, a secretary, and even worked as a pastry chef! And although these jobs helped me learn more about being flexible, and to have patience while working with others – I knew it wasn’t who I was.
So right after college, I truly started living my own life. I quickly became unapologetically me:
- I wear different color hair & hair styles
- I say exactly how I feel when it needs to be said
- Contrary to what some people think, I am an empath, and I do feel other people’s feelings deeply
- Likewise, I have the ability to cut toxic people out of my life without regrets
- I shamelessly admit that I’ve never had a strong male presence in my life and I’m def gonna need some therapy for it!
- I struggle with romantic relationships
- I live and breathe music and fashion
- And I’m too damn extra for my own good!
These are just some of the things that make up who I am. If you’re reading this, and you are someone who struggles with finding yourself, I suggest taking a pen and paper. Find a comfortable spot in your home, and write down 5 things that you like to do – let’s call this your passion list. Then write down your why. I always think it’s always important to address the why. Why do you get up every single morning, and what do you do each and every single day. Are you focusing on these five things? Or are these things being neglected? Are you chasing your own dreams, or are you living a life based on what someone else wants? You’ve got to be aware of who you are, be comfortable in your own skin – regardless of what anyone says.
So if that means you go out and buy a bright ass neon wig like me, then so be it! Live unapologetically babe!
Thanks so much for reading and stopping by. All my luv, xx